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Pre-nup. Getting married on your own terms!

Entering the wedding hall is a sinking feeling. The whole shopping extravaganza is very happening. New clothes, the jewelry, the courtship & the romance!! It just feels ‘wow I couldn’t be happier!’ But when I actually sat on the chair for makeup and looked at the wedding dress, darn I remember how nervous I was! Now if I had a pre-nup that said  if you get a pimple on your face you would have to bear penalties, I would just have fainted  when  that very morning one decided to show right on my forehead!! (Don Worry I covered it with my maangtika and there was no pre-nup with such clause)

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Pre-nups are becoming very common these days.

Although in my courtship times I did pick up a fight to get a pre-nup done with my fiancé! But India still has to open its arms for the pre-nup culture!  The west is very familiar with this concept. With the increasing number of divorces and decreasing patience among newly married couples I strongly feel this is a really a good idea!  With those Indian couples staying with the in-laws I think you should probably have a strict policy against in-law interference!!
For those who managed to read till here and do not still know what a pre-nup is read on!!  Prenuptial agreement (pre-nup) “is a contract entered into prior to marriagecivil union or any other agreement prior to the main agreement by the people intending to marry on contract with each other. The content of a prenuptial agreement can vary widely, but commonly includes provisions for division of property and spousal support in the event of divorce or breakup of marriage. They may also include terms for the forfeiture of assets as a result of divorce on the grounds of adultery; further conditions of guardianship may be included as well. Source: Wikipedia.com
There are pro’s and con’s of everything in this world. But imagine having a contract with your wife/ husband over adultery, costing penalty of millions of dollars! Well uh oh! He/she cheated and you earned out of it! All the shopping from that money sure might be able to reduce the pain a little bit.  Or you Mil (Mother-in-law) decided to pick a bone with you, Page 15   clause 56, any taunting would be accountable to a payment of 5 million!!  Imagine the peace that you enable in your life, because at least the fear of paying money would keep her from doing this to you.
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Decide the pre-nup on your own terms.

Or the girl gains weight above 55 kg there’s a penalty!! Life would be easy and complicated both the same at a time. Well it’s not that all this comes in only with these kind of clauses. The clauses are totally up to the couple. Today it seems to be a good idea to get a pre-nup instead of living in the wide range of possibilities a relationship can have. In case of a divorce you can also claim alimony or have pre fixed amount to be given as alimony in the same! (And no we are so not favoring divorce. Just saying in case of!) Just make sure you read and discuss each and every clause with your partner before signing one. Almost all the international celebrities have a pre nup registered.  Katie Holmes – Tom Cruise, Jessica Biel – Justin Timberlake , Nicole Kidman-  Keith Urban, Denise Richards and Charlie Sheen!!
A monthly allowance, shopping allowance, a new car at the end of every lease cycle, child and pets maintenance cost, cheating, divorce, personal expense etc are the common clauses in these pre-nups!
Being in the flow and doing things never yield a good result. Pre- nup is a document with a wide range of possibilities and can be exploited to its limits. Before you think you are ready to sign a pre-nup think read and discuss again if it has all the things that have to be there!
Rest to follow or not follow is up to the couple but remember when you make a commitment I strongly believe it s for life. So hurting your partner is never the right thing to do!
 
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8 thoughts on “Pre-nup. Getting married on your own terms!

  1. Marriage in India is such a scary concept. Its like you are surrendering your freedom by marrying. Though I would be scared of hurting my future fiance’s feelings, its still something practical to think of in a long run!

    1. yaa! That’s what we women do gets scared! I was too. But i did talk to him about it (agree or no agree is a different story!) But I think it’s worth giving a try!

  2. Rightly said, pre-nup is an alien thing for Indians. Only a handful of us actually know what it is.. Signing a pre-nup is totally subjective to the couple involved but if there is a need, I dont think any one should shy away from doing so.

  3. I think we still have a long way to go before we are comfortable with the idea of pre-nup. But in today’s time, it is practical to make such an arrangement if both partners are in. Glad you are exploring such topics too 🙂

    1. I swear that i agree! I remeber talking to my MIL about it ! and the reaction I got was priceless 😛

  4. This is really helpful & practical thing for many couples..! Although depends totally upon the understanding between the couples..Family usually thinks otherwise when they hear such concepts..
    Good post :yes:

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