Guest post by Tanya from Braindeadmusicalive!
Give it up for our guest blogger and a great friend Tanya for her first blog with us *applauds*
Marriage is not just a spiritual communion; it is also remembering to take out the trash.
“My husband and I have never considered divorce… murder sometimes, but never divorce.”
Yes, that’s hilariously true about so many of us who are in the married life! But who cares!? We are all here to create our own “Happily ever after” stories. And why not, the adrenaline rush you get from the idea of spending a life time with that one person is the wildest and the longest adventure one could live on the face of this earth. Voila! Luckier you get, when the one you marry doesn’t fit into your idea of the perfect one. More often than not, that is the ideal case.
Some days you’ll find yourself bursting into tears not knowing if the decision was ever worth it. Some days you’d want to lock yourself up and let the usual complaints, the un-said fights and hourly frustrations go unnoticed. And on the other not-so-cruel days, you’ve got your eyes beaming with love that comes from the one whose standing right by your side, holding your hand, making a million promises of a trillion years of togetherness. The one moment of silent but magical sigh, has the courage to survive yet another life time.
Without getting carried away with the flawless possibilities of falling in love with the right one, let’s try and see what the wrong one’s are all about. The ones who are yet to get hitched and the one who’ve already been there, done that, would both agree with the fact that a real time married life happens not when you tie a knot or do the rituals, but when you leave the bed early in the morning and bit by bit see yourself trying to blend in the new, emotionally challenging, nerve wrecking changes that have been tied to you just as much as the dreamy thought of a never ending honeymoon did.
There’s no one way to fix a problem, this is to say that there’s never going to be a straight outlined guideline, or a simple answer to any of the varying but similar issues of marriage. You’re idea of a relationship is completely yours, so are your ways of dealing with it. Chanting examples of how did your neighbor manage a divorce out of a failed marriage or how the recent survey shows that marriages have lost value in recent times wouldn’t help you feel better or sort matters.
Coming from an unwed-brain, these are some of my quick and personal views that wouldn’t help you sustain a marriage longer than you already can, but might just help you add a bit of spice to the idea of making your companionship a better, funnier and easier tradition to live by… (To be continued in part 2, up tomorrow )
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