Being honest with your partner about your past relationship: Life after wedding

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Recently I got to know that one of my close friend is getting married . It is an arranged marriage and as in any arranged marriage his parents found this beautiful girl for him, a match made in heaven πŸ™‚ . Now the point of discussion is not about his wedding planning or outfits. He was in a strong relationship in the past and for some reason they had a break up. Quite normal and it happens in the case of more than 50% in love. Very few are lucky enough to marry their first love. Being honest to your partner by talking about your past relationship,Is that right or not? .

This guy had a very hard timeΒ after breakup and it took quite some time for him to get back to normal life. When he shared about his wedding news we were equally happy and excited for him. As many of us knew about his past everyone started to give their piece of advice. Some were like’ you need not share about your past love and relationship to your would be while few of them were against it and they want him to share it with her. To be very honest he was confused and clueless πŸ˜€
Let him take a call about it!
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What do you guys think about the same? Do we really need to tell about our past to our husband/wife or we should just let it go and move on with the new life?

In my opinion marriage is a bond between two entirely different people of opposite poles :). They both have different point of view about life and everything else. It’s better to share your past with your partner but before that you should know your partner a bit
An over possessive, emotional and sensitive person will find it difficult to take such topics easily where as a sensible and smart person can understand and live in the present forgetting the past. After all a happily ever after life is what we want πŸ™‚

That was my view, Do share your view about the same below:
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40 thoughts on “Being honest with your partner about your past relationship: Life after wedding

  1. I absolutely agree with you. Since both of them are getting into a new life together, they should be well aware of their pasts as well. But they should also be assured that their past should not interfere in their present. But at times, this might backfire as well. So it is better to understand your partner, how he/she might react to your revelation and then disclose the past. Every person reacts differently. So observe him/her and then decide.

    1. yea that’s the right way, understand your partner and you can decide what to disclose and what not to πŸ˜€

  2. Like you said, it is always on a postive side to share your past with partner as that not only shed off the emotional load but also help in strengthening the nuptial bond. But on the other side I believe, if your partner is too aggressive or possesive, and you have no relations with your past its better to keep it buried.

    1. Yes its always better to share and give it a honest start, but it all depends on your partner take it πŸ˜€

  3. For me and my fiance this is easy πŸ™‚ He was my first love, so don’t have any history to hide. And he only had two girlfriends before me, and they weren’t serious at all.

    1. getting to know about your partner’s past from a third person is the worst thing to happen in a relationship

    1. getting to know about your partner’s past from a third person is the worst thing to happen in a relationship

  4. I think honesty is the key to happy marriage because sooner or later those subjects will come up and then there will be doubt because we never shared them at the beginning:)

  5. Eventhough honesty is the best thing in the relationship, as you said understanding our better-half is the most important thing before we speak-out such things.

    Understanding and adjustment is the two most important terms that we should keep in mind to lead a happy married life.

  6. I believe honesty is the best policy but I think just mentioning that he had a past girlfriend for [x] years is enough – he need not to go into detail about how much he loved her, how she broke his heart, etc.

    I actually know of a marriage between an NRI and a girl brought up in India that was dissolved within 6 months because, among other things, he wasn’t honest about his pre-marriage dating life and she was shocked to find pics on his laptop of him hugging/kissing various American girls.

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